11/02/09 20:17 Filed in: Living In
Moving to a new place is never easy,
and moving to a new country is even more
difficult. I didn't want to leave the USA.
However, to be with my same-sex partner of
over 10 years, I had to make a choice--move
to her home country of England, move to
Canada where we are legally married, or
break up. We chose Canada. This blog
details the experiences I've had since
moving to Canada, a country that is
supposedly so similar to the US, but in
reality is vastly different.
Ever since Sarah and I met in 1998, the US
government could not have cared less about
immigration rights for same-sex bi-national
couples. Every year, bills were introduced
to try to remedy the unfair and painful
situations that so many of us experienced,
but every year, Republicans ensured that
these bills never left the committee room.
After all Sarah and I have been through,
all the pain, separation, and expense,
there is no way I can express how wonderful
it feels to see our plight acknowledged in
a formal government forum. So, I won't try.
Bi-national couples have long been the
forgotten children of the gay-rights
movement. However, we suffer just as much,
if not more than the other GLBT Americans
who are disadvantaged. We are the ones who
are faced with the choice of having to move
out of the US or be separated from our
family members. Read more...
"My Life in Exile de Facto"
(photo: personal; at a soccer stadium
in England; Mary and Sarah together